Parenting is a multifaceted responsibility. We are charged with everything from the most mundane of tasks such as insuring our children keep their room clean, to tasks that could challenge a five star general. Sometimes simply breaking those tasks down into clearly understandable components can help us accomplish them with ease.
A useful tip for any parent is to resist the urge to do everything for your children. Instead, help your kids learn to do things on their own. In this way, they will develop an invaluable sense of confidence in their own skills and abilities and grow into capable, independent adults.
Use clothes or items from the mother to wrap a bottle in if the baby is having trouble getting used to drinking from it. The smell of mom in the clothing will help calm the baby because he will associate it with his mother, thus making him more likely to give it a try.
An effective way to stop a tantrum is to ignore it, as difficult as it may be for you. Children usually throw tantrums to get attention. If you stand next to a child while he is throwing a fit, you are giving him an audience and he will have no incentive to stop. Just make sure that the child is in an area where he will not hurt himself and leave him alone. When he sees that his tantrum is not getting a rise out of you, he will eventually stop.
Make sure to give your twins time with you that they don’t have to share. All too often twins are thought of as one complete unit. They are separate people and they need time to discover who they are on their own. Make time each week to take one twin to the park or the store with you.
Even though it may be an uncomfortable topic for parents to discuss, it is very important that you talk to your children about drugs while they are still young. This way, once they hit the age when peer pressure is common, they will know that drugs are not good for them.
It is okay to go to the drive-thru if you are having a very hard day and it would make things more convenient for you, but do not make that a part of your regular routine. You should use this as a treat for the children, instead of feeding them these foods regularly, because this habit can lead to child obesity.
Your marriage is just as important as your children, so take good care of it. You need time together as a couple to ensure that you keep the passion alive, so make sure to have a date night once a week where it’s just you and your spouse. The kids will be there when you get home!
Clearly identifying what it is that we expect from our children and how we envision them meeting those expectations is an indispensable component of parenting. This article strives to help us do just that. The goal is to enhance the relationship between a parent and children while still accomplishing parental responsibilities.
He is a fitness coach, musicologist and ethnomusicologist. He is a National Fitness Trainer, in Indonesia, and University Professor, Emeritus of the Department of Composition and Theory, the College of Music of the University of Jakarta Indonesia.